Sometimes we are all guilty of caring far too much about what other people think about us and we adjust our plans, goals or dreams accordingly to avoid being judged.
I’m totally guilty of this and I bet you are too. I have personally been affected because I’ve cared way too much about what other people think. If you want to stop caring what they think, I may have a solution to this very problem! But it may not necessarily be the easiest to implement…
“Stop giving a hoot about what other people think and live your life”.
I taught myself to practice this motto in late 2016 and I really wanted to share the top 5 things I discovered when I stopped caring:
1. Not being so concerned about how other people will view you for your actions, choices, and decisions. This never comes easily but when you let go and find the freedom to be your authentic self you will feel liberated. This can be something so minor as how you dress, the job you really want or anything else you want. Believe me when I say the moment you are true to yourself and let go of the assumed thinking (which distracts your choices, opportunities and joy) you will reap the benefits in ways you can’t even imagine.
2.You establish a clear idea of what you want to accomplish. Once I stopped caring about others’ opinions, my personal goals and desires became much more apparent especially in 2017. I feel like a sense of freedom to pursue my passions without the burden of wondering ‘what will they think of me’. Now, I honestly don’t care and I know what I want to do in the immediate future. I have a better vision for the distant future as well and I now ask myself ‘what do I want to accomplish’. I put me first! For instance when I’m making decisions about fashion blog I only consider my own thoughts. I learnt very quickly the more I relied on others for reassurance and I guess a sense of approval I was withdrawing myself from the vision I had in mind.
3.Trust a few opinions and forget the rest. I’ve made this mistake far too many times by trusting other people’s opinions and I have been utterly shocked by some of the responses I’ve had. I cannot stress how important it is to trust a select few to share their opinions with you, or people you can genuinely talk to. For me, those people are my closest circle of friends and select few family members.
4.You truly feel less stressed. I’m telling you trying to be something you’re not is extremely exhausting. I’ve done this to an extent and I couldn’t keep up. Dictating your choices on the assumed thoughts of others is suffocating. The day you decide to be yourself, this stress melts away. Interestingly, I didn’t realise how much unnecessary stress I was experiencing from being concerned with what other people thought of me until I quit doing so. I’d say especially at work and the pursuit to becoming a blogger.
5.Growing becomes easier, and really enjoyable. With each passing year, my life experiences increase, and I get much smarter. Smarter about the decisions I make and the people I surround myself with. This accumulating experience and knowledge; coupled with actively living my life and without allowing the thoughts of others control me, has 100% allowed me to grow as an individual.
My viewpoints on certain issues have certainly evolved over the years, but any changes made to my values or opinions happen because they’re important to me. I’m not basing my values on what I think other people want, or expect and thus, my growth as a woman and human is easier and enjoyable. I change certain things because I want to and because they’re important to me. With that I only consider very few people’s opinions and I continue to learn (p.s. I’m not an expert in this, but I’m certainly learning).
In summary, I honestly believe life is better when we actively live our lives and don’t let other people dictate our choices in life. My advice is to be authentic, unapologetically you and stop caring about what other people think. When you do, you’ll reap the benefits explained above, and I can certainly guarantee many more.
I would genuinely like to hear your thoughts, stories or comments! DM or drop me a note below! Until next time xxx